PFS while in relationship/ wife

ncsugrad

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I know you are from your daily sex logs on the other forums lol. I wish I could do the same , was like that 5 years ago felt like I was making good improvements with a decent quality of life . but lately been dealing with daily shrinkage & soft muscles/muscle loss.
Haha, yeah, sorry, didn’t really intend for that to turn into a sex log but when that’s your main issue I guess that’s what happens sometimes

I’m about to go to no supplements for a few weeks and start the whole juice feast a week or so after that I guess. I dread it but the improvements will be worth it.
 

wuf

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I have been in relationship for 5 long years and I told her about my pfs only once at the first months of our relationship.
My main issue was my bad irritation mood and I was so damn nervous and aggressive.
Then I broke up with that girl, stayed "free" for few years fucking around(since my pfs got better)..
Now, after 2 years back to pfs/hormonal problems caused by assumption of prohormone, I am in relationship again.
Not easy to deal with it since you have such problems, sexually, phisically, mentally...
No comments to help, some guys believe that telling the truth can help and I agree.. But I'm not that kind of person that like to be a victim in front of a woman face and then I prefer to say nothing and try to do my best as I can, cause telling it would put me in a wrong psicological position that I don't like to have regarding woman department.
 

bruschi11

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Yep and still haven’t told her that I have PFS or have even taken fin. She just thinks iM a hypochondriac because of all of the supplements I have. Haha
Lol I don’t know you do it man. I can’t hide anything. My freakin girlfriends mom and possibly her whole family knows I have pfs. I’m in a new-ish relationship like 9 months too.

I try to play it off as Lyme tho so it’s not too embarrassing.

I’ve never been good at hiding anything. Luckily this girl is open minded. Had a gf in the mid 2010s that was most closed minded girl ever. I was lying about my sports gambling, my health, drinking, weed, sneaking golf in and lying about that. Just wasn’t a fun life hiding stuff.

It feels good to be honest though this time around.
 

hairsuit

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Been married for 16 years. My wife has been with me through the whole ride. The first crash, and then better. The second crash, and the aftermath this past year and a half. I have an amazing woman. Fear creeps in once in a while, “ will she get tired of my inconsistent ability to have sex?” But I cant live like that. We’ve been through it all. If anything, it reveals another layer of love
That you never knew existed. “Till death do us part.....”. I guess we aren’t there yet. Lol. Close, but not yet.
 

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Guys, you need to get it that women don't care about sex. as a physical thing. they care about sex on the emotional level.

Most guys look at their problems as guys. women look at it all differently. This is why it is funny to see guys growing dicks, bodybuilding etc for chicks. they are not doing it for women, they are doing it for themselves, women dont give a flying fck about it.

but they will care if you are beaten down, if you care about it too much, and pay attention to it too much and obsess with it too much.

I have been dealing a lot of POIS people. and some of them so obsessed with POIS that they check it like 10 times a day. And this is the whole reason they have the POIS

Mental mindset is very important. Think and live like you don't have PFS. If you can't perform sexually dont concentrate on it. just go forward do other things. grow

This is why I like TEI for some people. or Cdnuts protocol, they can just go on it. and forget about this sex thing, and just move on. and overtime will get better.


I had a guy who started TEI or ARL ,first 3-5 months was writing to me so much bullshit, swearing at me. , he could not let it go.

and then 2 years later he is a practitioner and got so much better in all aspects.

I am not saying TEI is a panacea, we dont know how good that program is. I don't personally I did not make it

but it is the whole mind set.


just choose the path and do it.


Like CDnuts protocol , people do get better.? yes they do. so just do it. and stop worrying about it.


or even @joekool with his testosterone, experiment, I don't agree with Joe what testosterone does, and what it does not.( I don't agree on theory ) but he got better in some aspects since he just wants to get better and follows what he thinks will get him there. Which is very very good.

Or bruschi, he is just following something which he thinks will get him better.

You gotta research, we have multiple ways in which we people got better. research and choose the path which is close to you and just do that path, and forget about it.

but research the path, which got more than one person better. and just try to follow it.


I am trying to figure out the exact focal point of all of this. to fix it faster. In the meantime, just choose the path and stick with it.
 
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MNK99

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Not always, but in general: Men are more often Logical. Women are more emotional/intuitive, nurturing. working out and all that is for inner game. Same girls like a guy basically skinny, a bit chubby, and lean. BUT* you like yourself better, which makes it easier to get women. EVEN if it's the same ones. Men are visually stimulated in sex, and again, women need more of a build up/ emotional connection. (all this goes out the window depending on the topsy turvey nature of the current day), but in general, that's at least partially genetically and evolutionarily hardwired.
 
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I told my gf I think she understands but doesn't at the same time.she instantly thinks doctors can fix this. I understand what you mean but it seems like no matter what I do my whole body losing it zest for life daily. She only knows me as a energetic 27-30 year old kid now as a 33 "old" man. She is 7 years younger than me btw. Trying to hold off on protocols until I get some new bloodwork to have an idea where I'm at. But working out eating right doesnt seem to be a proper slit to keep me stable for the time being

Guess I will need viagra/cialis to have sex in the coming weeks
 
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Walker

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I had PFS while I was dating my wife. She really didn't mind at all - however, communication is key. Like @Helen said above, women don't care about sex on the same wavelength as men. However, don't expect them to allow you to obsess over your issue. Get on a path, and get back to as normal a life as you can.
 

jinstewart

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I am trying to figure out the exact focal point of all of this. to fix it faster. In the meantime, just choose the path and stick with it.
Slightly OT and I've posted similar but... just... feel SO much better knowing Helen's always still on it. Got more faith in him (her?) than any protocol but it sure helps me in keeping the faith!
 
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raven

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For me when I was in a relationship with PSSD it wasn't the sexual sides that were the problem, it was the emotional blunting, I gradually became more self focused and disinterested which killed off the relationship. This was in my first year of PSSD when I was 19, I think I would manage it a lot better now, but still haven't really pursued the opportunities that have come my way in the last 2 years
 
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barbaar

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For me when I was in a relationship with PSSD it wasn't the sexual sides that were the problem, it was the emotional blunting, I gradually became more self focused and disinterested which killed off the relationship. This was in my first year of PSSD when I was 19, I think I would manage it a lot better now, but still haven't really pursued the opportunities that have come my way in the last 2 years
Yeah the emotional blunting pretty much defeats the purpose of relationships imo. I mean it sucks when your dick won't work but why even bother if you can't feel anything for anyone.