mayhaps Live Clean, Bioderma, Bee's (whatever it's called, Burts Bees), make something for hair. They have nice baby products. (I have sensitive skin, hence use stuff like that).
If not, Dove... not as good.
I like this: Bioderma Foaming Gel Cleanser. That's for cleaning tho. (this is all like 5-7x cheaper than Vichy and La Roche too, and better for you). myb even 10-13x cheaper.
african black soap.
also: there's a site which indexes dermatologically some index... of harshness of products. forget what it is, used to consult it. it's out there on the internets.
if you dont care about natural: bed head, paul something, morris motley, redken's ok. and lots of others. texturize, dry off, and then iron your hair, blowdry, texturize spray, freeze, wet, and then texturize, style, lock into place with hairspray, then blowdry it again. then shower again and do the same thing.